Day after day of headaches.
Yesterday, my mentor told me that sometimes he feels that we are very pitiful and very painful. People who are not good at socializing do not like to participate in crowded places, nor do they like fake people and things. But they also have their own way of socializing. We talked a lot, thought a lot, and by the way, recorded it.
Why do the older generation not have their own pursuits#
Today, I talked with my friend about this issue, why are parents nowadays so eager to have their children get married and have children, as if only in this way can their lives be complete.
The contradictions in the older generation's marriage concept reflect the complexity of social values. On one hand, they hope their children find a partner who sincerely treats them, while on the other hand, they emphasize the importance of matching social status. It is the friction between traditional concepts and real life.
When we pursue pure emotions, we talk about "matching social status" and need reality.
When we only pursue desires, we mention "responsibility" and "marriage".
College students fall in love, but parents are anxious. To be honest, in educating their children, parents often focus on excessive protection rather than providing enough challenges and opportunities for them to learn to cope. This "excessive protection" leads to children feeling helpless and having a tendency to escape when faced with setbacks. Why do parents always help their children avoid these things? Although they may avoid them this time, the next time the child will have to pay a greater price to face them. The earlier one experiences setbacks, the better they can improve their ability to face challenges.
Why are young people nowadays unwilling to have children#
Actually, the main reason is that the cost of having children is too high. Milk powder, education, etc. Because they do not trust domestic milk powder, they need to buy expensive imported milk. Because they do not trust domestic education, they have to study abroad. The expenses are unbearable for ordinary people. If there is no house abroad, they can only return to their home country as a returnee.
This is not anxiety and complaints from the peasant class, but more of an unchangeable fact.
Imagine:
- People live and work in peace and contentment, workers receive satisfactory wages. Companies also comply with labor laws, not making money by exploiting employees, not relying on blessings but on their own technology, patents, and innovations.
- Parents do not have to worry about food safety when their children are born, nor do they have to worry about technology and hard work.
- Going to school does not involve worrying about campus bullying, parents do not have to consider their relationship with teachers, absolute fairness, no need to worry about the teacher resources and ranking of key schools.
- No need to compare educational background, salary, or respectability. The cost of education expenses greatly decreases, no need to adhere to this elite education.
Some people think it's a money issue. As long as you earn enough money, you can solve everything, and live a good life. In reality, domestic money cannot provide a stable life. The opportunity to make money now, the opportunity to do practical things to make money is even less than going gambling. Only when you earn more than 10 million in spare cash can you live more comfortably.
But apart from the extremely intelligent elite students from Tsinghua University and Peking University, most people are ordinary. A very small number of people earn money through their brains, while more rely on "luck". For example, the computer wave ten years ago, and more recently WEB3.0.
It's still the same saying, small wealth comes from diligence, big wealth comes from fate.